A New Relationship Paradigm
The only way to avoid co-dependent relationships
is to befriend and honor the Self.
Then you can build the relationship
on the truth of self-coherence.
This is the new paradigm of relationship.
In the old relationship paradigm,
the commitment to self is vitiated
by the commitment to other.
In seeking to please the other, self is abandoned.
Since the abandoned self is incapable of love,
this creates a vicious cycle of attraction and rejection.
All genuine relationship must be built on the foundation
of our acceptance and love for ourselves.
That is the primary spiritual gesture,
the one that opens the door to real intimacy.
From Everyday Wisdom by Paul Ferrini