WHEN PEOPLE DON'T EXPRESS THEMSELVES...

“When people don't express themselves, they die one piece at a time.”

― Laurie Halse Anderson, Speak

DECIDE TO NEVER LET ANYTHING TURN YOU AROUND

It is time to believe in yourself and your dreams. It is time to take the risk of living your true life. It is time to hold your head up and decide to never let anything turn you around.

Stay connected with people who inspire, nourish and bring out the best in you. It takes time to pull yourself together and to heal if you have been hurt, humiliated, or become emotionally broken because of what you have gone through. You can become disconnected with the real you and forget who you really are. It is necessary to read, listen and focus on positive things. Things that strengthen your mind, develop your confidence and fortify your spirit. Create a strategy that will allow you to rid your life of people whose only intention is to strip, destroy, or take you down.

Be aware that there are certain situations that are just not good for you. Make a conscious, deliberate effort to focus your mind exclusively on things that will build you up, give you hope and expand the possibilities in all dimensions of your life. You have the capacity and the ability to rebuild your life. What you have gone through can be used to develop another part of yourself. Stay connected with positive people with the knowledge that you will get through this. You have something special. You have GREATNESS within you!

LES BROWN

EVERYWHERE AND NOWHERE

Everywhere and Nowhere

Nowhere is not a bad place.

It’s just the place you come to
when you no longer have “somewhere else” to go.

It’s just the place you come to
when you stop avoiding this moment
and realize that the journey
doesn’t have to do with anyone but you.

You are the subject: your thoughts,
your feelings, your words, and your actions.

Turn your attention here
and you stop running around like Don Quixote
fighting windmills.

You can be where you are
and address the origin of joy and suffering
inside yourself.

Enlightenment doesn’t involve
getting something you do not have.

It involves relinquishing a barrier you have placed
between yourself and truth.

It is not so much a finding of truth,
but a giving up of illusion.

From Everyday Wisdom by Paul Ferrini
www.paulferrini.com

HIDDEN SKILLS

Hidden Skills

You have skills you don’t know about. Take on a challenge, and you’ll find what those skills are.

In the process of living life, from moment to moment, from day to day, you’ve been doing much. What you’ve already been doing has prepared you to do much more.

Don’t let your hidden skills remain hidden. Force them out into the open where you can exercise them to create value.

There are plenty of people, things, values and concepts you care about. So consider what you care about, and commit yourself to do something about it.

Launch the whole of your being into purposeful action. Discover levels of wisdom, resourcefulness, skill and effectiveness you never knew you had.

Set off on a meaningful journey. Skills and capabilities will rise from within to power you forward.

— Ralph Marston

STEPPING BEYOND FEAR

Stepping Beyond Fear

If you want to go beyond your fear,
you must first go through it.

You must learn to be in fear
without beating yourself up,
without projecting your anxieties onto others.

Walk with fear as your companion
so that you get to know it.

If you don’t take the time to discover
what your fear is all about,
you will not be able to step beyond it.

From Everyday Wisdom by Paul Ferrini

www.paulferrini.com

TO CHOOSE OR NOT TO CHOOSE

To Choose or Not to Choose

You can't force yourself to choose before you are ready.
If you do, you will probably have regrets.

Be patient with yourself and learn to accept
all of the voices within your psyche.

You don't have to act on any of these voices.
Just listen to them and see what they need to say to you.

Accept your ambivalence and it will move when it is ready.
Guidance and direction will come when it's time.

From Everyday Wisdom by Paul Ferrini
www.paulferrini.com

SOMETIMES YOU HAVE TO BELIEVE IN SOMEONE ELSE'S BELIEF

Sometimes you have to believe in someone else's belief in you...
until your own belief kicks in!

The people you are with can have a huge impact on you. Choose wisely and courageously. Align yourself with people that you can learn from, people who want more out of life, people who are stretching and searching and seeking some higher ground in life. You have GREATNESS within you!

LES BROWN

STOP TRYING TO CHANGE THE PEOPLE YOU LOVE

Stop trying to change the people you love and change yourself! Stop trying to change people who take your money but will not take your advice. You will only drain your own mental, spiritual, emotional and financial reserves. The truth is...people change when they are sick and tired of being sick and tired or hit rock bottom.

If you are dealing with addiction or irresponsible behavior from grown adults ~ protect your wallet and your mind. It does not mean you do not love them. Your attempts to help may only delay what is inevitable. Allow them to take the journey they have chosen for themselves. Choose to let go of the guilt and be at peace. You may require counseling or emotional support to stop being an enabler. If necessary, give yourself some distance so that you can stop being used or manipulated because they know that you care and you love them. You have the right to enjoy a guilt-free, happy and productive life. Commit yourself to changing the only person you really can - YOU!! You have GREATNESS within you!!

LES BROWN

POSITIVE OPTIONS

Positive Options

Instead of worrying about the worst that could happen, accept that it could indeed happen. Then put positive energy into making sure it doesn’t, or positioning yourself to successfully deal with things if it does.

Sure, you have perfectly valid concerns about the future. But don’t let those concerns prevent you from taking action.

Now is not the time to panic or give up. Now is when you can work to give yourself positive options.

The sooner you accept that there could eventually be a problem, the more power you have in dealing with it. You can strengthen yourself, or get out of the way, or implement countless other strategies to ensure a positive future.

Worrying, complaining, feeling sad or sorry for yourself won’t do you any good. Choose instead to be realistic, putting thought, energy and action into creating the best outcome.

Focus on the good things you can do right now, to prepare, to grow stronger, to prosper. Face the future with courage and with the commitment to create positive options no matter what may come.

— Ralph Marston

DO YOU WANT TO KNOW WHO YOU ARE?

“Do you want to know who you are? Don't ask. Act! Action will delineate and define you.”

― Thomas Jefferson

BE PATIENT & REMEMBER

Be patient, continue to persist and move in the direction of your dream. Many times a dream has a life of its own. It will take you on a journey to build your character, your confidence and your faith. Be patient! Patience does not mean being inactive. It means positive expectation and a knowing deep down in your heart that you will be alright. Believe that things are going to work out for you. Judge not according to appearances.

Be patient ~ even if you do not have a dime in the bank, lost your job, or your money. Be patient. You have the power in you to pull this out. Don't judge yourself based on what you do not have. What you have is enough. Hold the vision. You have the power in you to resurrect your dreams and make them become a reality. Work on yourself. Believe in yourself and in a power greater than yourself. Be patient and keep moving forward. Things will work out for you.

Remember...You have something special. You have GREATNESS within you!!

LES BROWN

FORGIVE YOURSELF AND MOVE ON

Forgive yourself and move on. Release the need to rehash, review or relive what you could have, should have or would have done. Instead, be aware of what you learned about yourself.

Look at what the situation showed you that you were unwilling to see. Forgive yourself...despite your choices, actions or inaction and in spite of your lack of knowledge or misplaced trust. There may be consequences and responsibilities that you must face.

Avoidance and denial are poor substitutes for decisive action. Stop swinging at yourself with a super-sized bat. Put it down, pick yourself up, dust yourself off and know this..you will learn to trust yourself again, despite what you may be feeling now. Be gentle on yourself. Choose to be stronger, wiser, more courageous, determined, and committed to living in the present and building a brighter future for yourself. Remember, you have something special. You have GREATNESS within you!!

LES BROWN

TRANSFORMATION HAPPENS

Transformation Happens

The way you are today is not the way you will always be. The state of the world today is not how things will continue to be.

Every moment of every day, transformation happens. By its very nature, life changes, and you can direct many of those changes.

What kind of transformation would you like to see in your life, in your world? Now is when you can work to put life’s dynamic nature on your side.

In countless ways, in every imaginable situation, transformation happens. Pain is transformed by healing, anger is transformed by forgiveness, despair is transformed by caring.

Throughout history, transformation has improved lives. You can continue the tradition today.

Instead of being resigned to, or content with, the way things are, remind yourself that transformation happens. Do everything you can to make it happen in a way that is beneficial for all.

— Ralph Marston

EXPRESS YOUR GREATNESS WITHIN YOU

Express yourself. There is something in you the world needs now! Don't allow your own self-doubt, fear, and the negative opinions of others to stifle your gifts. Express yourself! If you know what your passion is, use it in every way you can to be of service to others.

If you don't, experiment with a variety of things until you find out what resonates with your mind, your heart, and your spirit. The world needs people who are on fire about their dream...who are hungry to make their mark....who are determined to leave a legacy. EXPRESS the GREATNESS within you!


LES BROWN

THINK MORE OF YOURSELF

SAVE YOUR TIME, ENERGY & WORDS

Do not give advice to people who have a history of not listening. Save your time, energy and words. Some people may complain about their life, but they have no intention of changing. STOP!! You can not change others - only yourself.


Love and/or pray for others and release them to their own life journey. Put your main focus and energy in creating greater movement and impact in your own life. You have GREATNESS within you!


LES BROWN

THE COMPULSION TO HEAL

The Compulsion to Heal

The compulsion to heal others
can be a major obstacle to your own healing.

Some people don’t need or want you to fix them.
Some people can’t be healed, no matter how you try.

Please step back, detach, and let go.
Give people the space to heal themselves.
It will be the best gift you could give to them
and to yourself.


From Everyday Wisdom by Paul Ferrini
www.paulferrini.com

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WASH IT AWAY

Wash It Away

Remember how it feels to feel great? Your own intention enables you to feel that way right now, and anytime.

Think of those times when you’ve had a burst of creativity. Today can be one of those times.

Have layer upon layer of negativity hidden your best self from your awareness? Let those layers fall away, and bring your highest values to the surface once again.

Though you live in a world ripe with challenge and confusion, a part of you exists beyond it, and can always rise above it. Connect with that part and feel the true joy of living.

Pay attention to everything going on around you, and stay engaged with the world. All the time, keep in touch with your ability to bring forth joy and fulfillment.

At any moment, in any circumstance, your joyful, positive presence can improve your world. Instead of giving in to the negativity, wash it away with the way you are.

— Ralph Marston

A NEW RELATIONSHIP PARADIGM

A New Relationship Paradigm

 The only way to avoid co-dependent relationships
 is to befriend and honor the Self. 

Then you can build the relationship 
on the truth of self-coherence. 

This is the new paradigm of relationship. 

In the old relationship paradigm, 
the commitment to self is vitiated 
by the commitment to other. 

In seeking to please the other, self is abandoned. 
Since the abandoned self is incapable of love, 
this creates a vicious cycle of attraction and rejection. 

All genuine relationship must be built on the foundation 
of our acceptance and love for ourselves.

 That is the primary spiritual gesture, 
the one that opens the door to real intimacy. 


From Everyday Wisdom by Paul Ferrini