A NEW RELATIONSHIP PARADIGM

A New Relationship Paradigm

 The only way to avoid co-dependent relationships
 is to befriend and honor the Self. 

Then you can build the relationship 
on the truth of self-coherence. 

This is the new paradigm of relationship. 

In the old relationship paradigm, 
the commitment to self is vitiated 
by the commitment to other. 

In seeking to please the other, self is abandoned. 
Since the abandoned self is incapable of love, 
this creates a vicious cycle of attraction and rejection. 

All genuine relationship must be built on the foundation 
of our acceptance and love for ourselves.

 That is the primary spiritual gesture, 
the one that opens the door to real intimacy. 


From Everyday Wisdom by Paul Ferrini

THANKFUL FOR WHAT YOU MUST DO

Thankful for what you must do

When there’s work you must do, your best approach is to be thankful for it. The more thankful you are, the less burdensome the task will be.

The effort is what you make it. You can make it a pain or you can make it a source of satisfaction and treasure.

If you’re resentful about what you must do and reluctant to get started, the person you’re hurting is yourself. There’s no good reason to be that way.

You have the power to immediately stop fighting the effort and start embracing it. Not only will you become more effective, you’ll also eliminate a completely unnecessary source of stress.

Sure, it’s easy to be thankful for the things you love and enjoy. Yet gratitude can be even more powerful when you apply it to situations, obligations and tasks you never asked for.

Be thankful for what you must do. You’ll be better at it, and a whole lot happier while getting it done.

— Ralph Marston