CONTROL OF OTHERS

Control of Others

As soon as you love someone your ego goes crazy
and tries to take control. This happens to everyone.

Love brings every shadow up to the surface
so it can be witnessed and transformed.
You are either willing to look or you aren’t.

Love gives you homework to do.

If you don’t become aware of your fears and insecurities,
they will eventually destroy your relationship.

Don’t turn the blessing of love into a curse.
Acknowledge your fears to your partner
and ask for help in walking through them.

From Everyday Wisdom by Paul Ferrini
www.paulferrini.com

COMPLETING THE PAST

Completing the Past

Don’t anguish about past lives.
Don’t keep re-living past experiences.

Attachment to the past limits your ability
to be fully present in the moment.

If repressed memories come up,
acknowledge them and integrate them.

Do this not to empower the past, but to complete it,
so that you can be present now.
Let go of anything that distracts you
from your immediate communion with life.


From Everyday Wisdom by Paul Ferrini
www.paulferrini.com

AFFIRMATIONS AS DENIAL OF FEELINGS

Affirmations as Denial of Feelings

Jesus said “Resist not Evil.”
If he were using today’s lingo,
he might say something like
“what you resist, persists.”

If you are angry at someone
and you try to replace your angry thoughts
with loving thoughts,
one of two things will happen.

Either you will be successful
at repressing the anger (a form of denial)
so that it continues to exist in your psyche
even though you pretend that it isn’t there.
Or you won’t be successful.
Actually, here it’s advantageous not to succeed,
because then you will have to deal with the anger,
acknowledge it, find out what triggered it.


From Everyday Wisdom by Paul Ferrini
www.paulferrini.com