LIVE TO SPREAD GOODNESS

Live To Spread Goodness

Live each moment with integrity, and you’ll find value and goodness in every experience. Make truth your priority and let your life gain from its great power.

Fully benefit from life’s goodness by fully committing yourself to uphold it. As tempting as it can be to cheat others, you cannot do so without cheating yourself more.

The way you treat people is a major part of the way you treat yourself. Act always with respect toward others, and you’ll live with great respect for yourself.

The most loving, compassionate, generous activities are the most enriching activities. Live to spread goodness, and you’ll spend your moments immersed in goodness.

Being truthful feels right because it is right. Being genuinely helpful feels good because it is good.

Align yourself with the power of life’s highest values. And live at your highest, most fulfilling level.

— Ralph Marston

THIS IS THE HIGHEST ACT OF COURAGE

WHEN PEOPLE DON'T EXPRESS THEMSELVES...

“When people don't express themselves, they die one piece at a time.”

― Laurie Halse Anderson, Speak

LOVE IS ...

“Love is the absence of judgment.”

― Dalai Lama XIV

KINDNESS. COURAGE. LOVE.

CONTROL OF OTHERS

Control of Others

As soon as you love someone your ego goes crazy
and tries to take control. This happens to everyone.

Love brings every shadow up to the surface
so it can be witnessed and transformed.
You are either willing to look or you aren’t.

Love gives you homework to do.

If you don’t become aware of your fears and insecurities,
they will eventually destroy your relationship.

Don’t turn the blessing of love into a curse.
Acknowledge your fears to your partner
and ask for help in walking through them.

From Everyday Wisdom by Paul Ferrini
www.paulferrini.com

BE CAREFUL OF YOUR SELF-TALK

Be careful of your self-talk. Without monitoring your mind and your mouth, the majority of what you say to yourself can poison your attitude, weaken your spirit, drain your energy. Be aware that, left unchecked, the negative storyteller in your brain can shut down your faith, amplify your fears and activate a spirit of hopelessness and self-sabotage. Turn off and banish the automatic negative thoughts that will ruin your life, if you let them.

Learn to keep your heart open and love yourself unconditionally. The universe is on your side waiting for your next move. Celebrate what is working in your life. Focus on the positive and on what you can do right now. Give thanks for what you have and that you are still here. That, alone, says that your life still matters. You have something special. You have GREATNESS within you!

LES BROWN

THERE ARE SOME THINGS YOU JUST NEED TO LET GO

Let it go. There are some things, some people, some attitudes, and some feelings that you have experienced that you just need to let go ~ because they are preventing you from living your greatest life! You are in charge. Exercise your power by consciously looking and asking the question..."How is this serving me by holding on to this attitude, anger, lack of forgiveness, grudge, or negative emotion?" Stop allowing these things to rob you of your peace of mind, happiness and well-being.

Let it go so that you can grow and prosper. Make the decision to release anything that is unbecoming of you, and that does not represent your highest and best thinking. This is easier said than done. It requires work, becoming deliberate and consciously aware of your feelings. No person or thing is worth sacrificing being joyfully enthusiastic about your life and health. Look for many ways to increase laughter, joy and love in your daily experience. You Deserve! 

LES BROWN

UNDERSTANDING IS THE FIRST STEP TO ACCEPTANCE

“Understanding is the first step to acceptance, and only with acceptance can there be recovery.”

― J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire

SOFTENING THE SWORD'S EDGE

Softening the Sword’s Edge

As long as you are trying to choose
between two strongly held points of view
you will sharpen the edge between them.

The pressure to decide is a double edged sword.
It hurts everyone it touches.

Step away from the pressure and the urgency.
Be patient with yourself and others.

Take the sword of division and love it.
until its edge softens and it can no longer do harm.
Then you can decide.

Because then you will rest in the heart-space
where all needs are considered
and everyone is enfolded in your love.

From Everyday Wisdom by Paul Ferrini
www.paulferrini.com

SELF-BETRAYAL

Self-Betrayal

Who is responsible for the fact that you choose
to be with people who betray you?
Are they responsible or are you?

When you trust people who do not deserve your trust,
you get hurt.

And then, instead of seeing your error and learning from it,
you blame the person who betrayed you,
which shifts the responsibility inappropriately.

And when that doesn’t work,
you try to beat yourself up by engaging
in some kind of self-destructive behavior
like picking up a bottle, overeating,
or having promiscuous sex.

That way you get to punish yourself
without taking responsibility
for your role in what happened.

Better to take responsibility for the decisions that you make
and leave the self-crucifixion out.

If you have a pattern of attracting people
who treat you unfairly or unkindly,
then be more careful about whom you trust.

Let people win your trust over time.
Don’t give your power away to others
just because you want their love and approval.

Don’t depend on others to give you the love,
the approval, or the safety you need.
Give them to yourself and then you cannot be betrayed.

From Everyday Wisdom by Paul Ferrini

www.paulferrini.com

CULTIVATE RELATIONSHIPS WITH PEOPLE WHO...

CELEBRATE YOURSELF AND BECOME MORE COMFORTABLE

Celebrate yourself and become more comfortable expressing your truth and your feelings about what matters to you. Living is risky business. There is always the possibility of hurt and rejection. In order to experience love, you will risk being hurt. In order to find success, you will risk failure.

Playing safe is not an option if you want to experience the best that life has to offer. Starve your fears. Decide to live beyond anxiety and doubt. Make what you want greater than what you fear. You have GREATNESS within you!

LES BROWN

CAN YOU SEE YOURSELF WINNING & CELEBRATING?

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DEMONS RISING UP

Demons Rising Up

Living with another person
often pushes your deepest buttons
and sets off unexpected explosions.

Your fears simply cannot stay hidden.

It isn't always pleasant business.
If you expect it to be pleasant all of the time
then you will be sadly disappointed.

Every relationship moves from romance to realism,
to the depths of despair.

Couples fall from grace just as individuals do.

Couples who face their demons
and walk through their fears
win a decisive battle against their own ignorance.

They integrate the shadow,
transcend the limits they have placed on love.
and learn how to love without conditions.

From Everyday Wisdom by Paul Ferrini
www.paulferrini.com

DANCE, DANCE, DANCE

“Dance, when you're broken open. Dance, if you've torn the bandage off. Dance in the middle of the fighting. Dance in your blood. Dance when you're perfectly free.”

― Rumi

THOSE WHO TEAR DOWN OTHERS

FIND THE ONES WORTH SUFFERING FOR

“If she's amazing, she won't be easy. If she's easy, she won't be amazing. If she's worth it, you won't give up. If you give up, you're not worthy. ... Truth is, everybody is going to hurt you; you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for.”

― Bob Marley, Guitar Chord Songbook - Bob Marley

COMFORTABLE WITH YOURSELF

"MY ROOTS WILL SET OFF TO ANOTHER LAND"

“Well, now

If little by little you stop loving me

I shall stop loving you

Little by little

If suddenly you forget me

Do not look for me

For I shall already have forgotten you

If you think it long and mad the wind of banners that passes through my life

And you decide to leave me at the shore of the heart where I have roots

Remember

That on that day, at that hour, I shall lift my arms

And my roots will set off to seek another land”

― Pablo Neruda, Selected Poems