EXPLORING HEAVEN OR HELL

Exploring Heaven and Hell

Your relationship will take you
to the heights of heaven and the depths of hell.

Both angels and devils live in your embrace
and move with you in your journey toward self-forgiveness.

No relationship is going to be free of struggle and turmoil.

In any relationship, there are inevitable ups and downs,
moments of connection and disconnection.

How you hold the moments of disconnection
is as important as how you celebrate the moments of connection.

Do you use the challenges of the relationship
to look more deeply at yourself?

Or do you run away and hide or threaten to leave the relationship
every time there are misunderstandings?

From Everyday Wisdom by Paul Ferrini
www.paulferrini.com

OBLIGATIONS AND RESPONSIBILITIES

Obligations and Responsibilities

The obligation to do something is not the problem. The problem is your anxiety about it.

The responsibility you have is not the problem. The problem is your resentment of it.

Instead of trying to avoid obligations and responsibilities, focus on their benefits. They burden you only to the degree you see them as burdens.

Following through on your obligations will earn you respect. Upholding your responsibilities will give you influence with others.

Every person has a desire to matter, to make a difference. Obligations and responsibilities enable you to make a difference in a meaningful, positive way.

Choose to stop fighting, stop worrying, stop complaining about obligations and responsibilities. Embrace the great richness they can bring.

— Ralph Marston

LIVE HONEST

Live Honest

Life is filled with great possibilities, right now, available to you. To live richly you don’t have to be perfect, just honest and authentic.

Admit your faults, admit your fears, admit you’re human. Nobody cares about how perfect everything is in your life, and anyway, it’s not, and that’s perfectly okay.

Don’t be afraid, or embarrassed, to be afraid. Don’t be too proud to ask for help when you could use it.

Life is uncertain, and that’s what makes the wonder so wonderful. Sometimes you’ll be uncomfortable, and those are the times you’ll grow stronger.

You have fears, quirks, little habits that annoy people, and a delightful, unique perspective no one can duplicate. Embrace all that, and enjoy every moment of being you.

Joy and richness are yours to live in the ups, the downs, the fears and the fun. Live real, live honest, and you’ll live very well.

— Ralph Marston

SEEING WHERE IT IS

Seeing Where It Is

Persist, and you will find what you seek. But don’t expect it to be where you thought it would be.

There is a way to reach your goal, a way to get past your troubles. To see it, you must move beyond old assumptions.

If you keep looking where you’ve always looked, you’ll find only what you’ve already found. To create new, improved results, embrace a new, improved perspective.

Your past assumptions may have served you well, or not so well. In any case, on this new day, you have the opportunity to look at life in a new, more positive and empowering way.

Be thankful you don’t already know everything there is to know. That opens you to learn what you need to learn, to discover an effective way forward.

The rewarding path you seek is absolutely there. Stop thinking you know where it might be, and you’ll start seeing where it actually is.


— Ralph Marston