I'D RATHER BE HATED FOR WHO I AM...

“I'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not.”

― Kurt Cobain

PEACE IN THE MIDST OF CONFLICT

Peace in the midst of Conflict

To be peaceful in the midst of conflict,
you must create respect
for everyone’s ideas and experiences.

That creates emotional and physical safety
so that people know that they won’t be attacked
when they express themselves honestly.

When people are committed
to equality and mutual respect
disagreements do not result in separation,

but in dialogue and increased understanding.

From Everyday Wisdom by Paul Ferrini
www.paulferrini.com

CAN YOU SEE YOURSELF WINNING & CELEBRATING?

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THE REWARDS OF LIFELONG PARTNERSHIP

The Rewards of Lifelong Partnership

As long as there is growth and honesty in a relationship,
it is worthy of our commitment.

That doesn't mean that it's perfect.
Even in the best relationships,
doubts and fears continue to arise.

However, mature couples learn to hold
their doubts and fears with compassion.
They learn to be patient with each other.

In time, the hard shell around their hearts
begins to crack open.

Where fear used to hold them back,
they learn to take baby steps forward.

They learn to stretch out their hands to each other
when one or both of them falter.

They learn to heal together and to trust each other.

And then they experience a gentleness
born of the struggle,
a sweetness born of the pain.

Then there is a twinkle in their eyes
when they look at each other.

It isn’t the same twinkle that was there
when they first met.
It is a different one.
It tells of their journey
through fear and projection
into the heart of acceptance and love.


From Everyday Wisdom by Paul Ferrini
www.paulferrini.com

DO WHAT IS BEST

Do What Is Best

What do you do when you feel like nothing you do is appreciated? Continue with what you know is best, for even when no one else seems to care, it matters that you care.

Don’t let anyone steal your values or your self-esteem. Do what you know is best, no matter what response you get.

If you think no one notices, you’re mistaken. You notice, and that makes an enormous difference.

The purpose of doing good is not to look good, not to impress anyone. Do what is right because it is right, and feel the inner peace, the inner strength it brings.

Ultimately, integrity wins. Truth and goodness cannot be denied for long.

Do what is best, but not for show. Do what is right, what is best, because your precious life deserves nothing less from you.

— Ralph Marston

PERSISTENT POSITIVE EXAMPLE

Persistent Positive Example

You can choose to be kind, even when others are not. You can speak truthfully, even when some people seek to deceive.

You can be generous, respectful, polite and positive, no matter how the world responds. You can be joyful without any particular reason.

When wasting time on trivial minutia is the popular thing to do, you can fill your moments with substance. Instead of fighting to prove others wrong, you can listen, learn and understand.

If you want the world to be kind, considerate, honest and sincere, show the world how. Living your values is much more effective than preaching and lecturing about them.

A light in the darkness is always noticed, even when it is not acknowledged. Shine your light often enough, and it cannot help but make a difference.

You have the option to live a good and valuable life every day. Live well, be a persistent positive example, and allow the world to follow along.

— Ralph Marston

LIVE HONEST

Live Honest

Life is filled with great possibilities, right now, available to you. To live richly you don’t have to be perfect, just honest and authentic.

Admit your faults, admit your fears, admit you’re human. Nobody cares about how perfect everything is in your life, and anyway, it’s not, and that’s perfectly okay.

Don’t be afraid, or embarrassed, to be afraid. Don’t be too proud to ask for help when you could use it.

Life is uncertain, and that’s what makes the wonder so wonderful. Sometimes you’ll be uncomfortable, and those are the times you’ll grow stronger.

You have fears, quirks, little habits that annoy people, and a delightful, unique perspective no one can duplicate. Embrace all that, and enjoy every moment of being you.

Joy and richness are yours to live in the ups, the downs, the fears and the fun. Live real, live honest, and you’ll live very well.

— Ralph Marston

NO GO AND STUN THE WORLD