STOP TRYING TO CHANGE THE PEOPLE YOU LOVE

Stop trying to change the people you love and change yourself! Stop trying to change people who take your money but will not take your advice. You will only drain your own mental, spiritual, emotional and financial reserves. The truth is...people change when they are sick and tired of being sick and tired or hit rock bottom.

If you are dealing with addiction or irresponsible behavior from grown adults ~ protect your wallet and your mind. It does not mean you do not love them. Your attempts to help may only delay what is inevitable. Allow them to take the journey they have chosen for themselves. Choose to let go of the guilt and be at peace. You may require counseling or emotional support to stop being an enabler. If necessary, give yourself some distance so that you can stop being used or manipulated because they know that you care and you love them. You have the right to enjoy a guilt-free, happy and productive life. Commit yourself to changing the only person you really can - YOU!! You have GREATNESS within you!!

LES BROWN

REALIZE THAT THERE IS NO SAFE POSITION IN LIFE

Get rid of them! Kick your fears, excuses and reasons for procrastinating to the curb. It is time to act boldly on your own behalf! Decide to live a larger life! Refuse to play it small or safe. This is not a game. It is your life. Stop trying to please everybody else and make their life better. You can serve others best when you are centered and live a happy life!!

Create a bucket list of things that you have always wanted to do and then...get them out of the bucket! Visualize the places and create the experiences and memories that you want to have in this life. Next...work the list!! Figure out how to make them a reality!! Realize that there is no safe position in life. You cannot get out of life alive, so LIVE in the present NOW! You have GREATNESS within you!


LES BROWN

THE ROAD TO NOWHERE

The Road to Nowhere

There is a road going by,
but you don’t know where it is going.
You don’t know whether to go right or left,
or whether to stay where you are.

You don’t know.

Sooner or later, out of boredom no doubt,
you will make a choice.

You will go right or left.
And you will get excited thinking
that you have made the right decision
until you come to difficult terrain,
and then you will be convinced
that you went the wrong way.

This will happen whether you go right or left.
It makes no difference.

On the Road to Nowhere,
it does not matter which way you go,
because the road is circular
and eventually returns to the same place.

On the Road to Nowhere, the question is not
“where are you going?”
because you aren’t going anywhere in particular.

The question is “how are you going?.
Are you enjoying the journey?”
Are you going happily or sadly?
Are you going blessing or cursing
the people you pass along the way?

On the Road to Nowhere
the destination is not so important.
The only thing that is important
is your state of consciousness.

From Everyday Wisdom by Paul Ferrini
www.paulferrini.com

REFRAINING FROM PROJECTION

Refraining from Projection

Nothing derails a relationship faster
than frequent excursions into guilt and blame.

Don’t forget the discipline you must bring
to your own life.

You are not always happy.
When you live alone, you have moments
of sadness, self-judgment, fear, anxiety;
you have feelings of unworthiness and failure.

You need to ride out these moments
and hold these thoughts and feelings compassionately
or you cannot function in life.

What makes you think that you won't have to do
the same thing when you are in a relationship?

The truth is you need to be even more compassionate
and responsible when you live with someone else.

That is because your egoic tendency
and that of your partner will be to blame each other
for your negative emotional states.

To refrain from this kind of projection
is one of the greatest challenges of relationship.

From Everyday Wisdom by Paul Ferrini
www.paulferrini.com