REFRAINING FROM PROJECTION

Refraining from Projection

Nothing derails a relationship faster
than frequent excursions into guilt and blame.

Don’t forget the discipline you must bring
to your own life.

You are not always happy.
When you live alone, you have moments
of sadness, self-judgment, fear, anxiety;
you have feelings of unworthiness and failure.

You need to ride out these moments
and hold these thoughts and feelings compassionately
or you cannot function in life.

What makes you think that you won't have to do
the same thing when you are in a relationship?

The truth is you need to be even more compassionate
and responsible when you live with someone else.

That is because your egoic tendency
and that of your partner will be to blame each other
for your negative emotional states.

To refrain from this kind of projection
is one of the greatest challenges of relationship.

From Everyday Wisdom by Paul Ferrini
www.paulferrini.com

THERE IS A REASON THAT YOU ARE STILL HERE

There is a reason that you are still here. Be about the business of finding out why. Discipline yourself not to talk about what you do for a living...but focus your mind on what you are living to do!

Believe in yourself. You are the only person who has the ability to radically change your life. Focus your time and energy on increasing your belief in what is possible for you, building your skills and creating a network of achievement focused relationships.

Choose to be a powerful force in your own life and in the world. Make choices on a daily basis that will move you in the direction of what you want to create for yourself. Summon up the courage, the resourcefulness and the motivation to create a life that you can be proud of. Use your imagination, talents and abilities to live a life of purpose and make a greater impact. Live your legacy now. You have GREATNESS within you!!

LES BROWN

CHOOSE WELL

Choose Well

Doing what’s best is not that difficult. It’s just a matter of making the choice.

Focus, discipline, commitment and persistence are all within reach. You just have to continue choosing them.

Even when the situation is disappointing or frustrating, you can take positive, effective action. All you have to do is make the choice, and follow through.

You can choose a life of quality and achievement. You can choose the most beneficial path rather than the path of least resistance.

There are people you love, ideals you value, dreams you treasure. Support them all with the choices you make every moment of your life.

Each time you’re faced with a choice, remind yourself of your opportunity and your obligation to make it the best one. Choose well, and let all of life benefit from the good choices you make.

— Ralph Marston

NOW IT'S TIME FOR A RADICAL CHANGE

You have something special. You have greatness within you. I recently had a close encounter with death. For several weeks I did not know who I was or where I was. During that time, my children and grandchildren prayed over me and around me. While fighting the medication that made me groggy I called friends to pray for me to get me through this experience. As I was going in and out of consciousness I had a glimpse of my past and my future.

This year I turned 72, they say seven and two equals nine which means a new chapter. I don't know about you but here is what I do know.... I'm creating a new chapter in my life. I don't know you, but here is what I know about you, based upon my own experience. I'm convinced that there is a presence and hunger in you that causes you to seek out the messages I post because they are in your heart. These messages speak to your soul, urging you to live the life that is awaiting you.

You have an assignment on your life to hold the vision you have in your heart. Don't look to the right or to the left. Turn a deaf ear to those who doubt you and criticize you. Separate yourself from the toxic relationships that compromise your power. You are here for a reason and your life has meaning and purpose. Now it is time for a radical change in your life. It might be people, circumstances, or going to another city, as I did, I don't know.

You don't have forever. We are only here for a limited amount of time. If you don't have the insight, courage, or desire to fulfill your earthly assignment, there will be consequences. Life will move on you as it did me because I was out of alignment with my purpose. I almost died and I am struggling to get out of a wheelchair I use every day. When just a few weeks ago, I was walking and speaking on stages all around the world, I now struggle with pain on a regular basis. God didn't slow me down, he stopped me. 

Take it from me, it is no accident that you are reading this. Take the time every day to discipline yourself to create a deep spiritual connection if you haven't. Go within, shut the world out, get still, and listen to the small voice within. Commit yourself to live full and die empty. You have something special. You have GREATNESS within you! That's my story and I am sticking to it.


LES BROWN

LEARN TO SAY NO TO YOU

Learn to say no to you! Identify the distractions in your life, and let them go. This may mean letting go of comfort foods, pitiful excuses that fuel procrastination, or unhealthy relationships that are stealing your dream and your new life away from you. Self-control is like a muscle. The more you use it ~ the stronger it gets.

It will require everything in you, and more, to stay in charge of your own life. Look at your life and ask ~ "What areas of my life require more focus, discipline, restraint or persistence?" Use the majority of your time, energy, and resourcefulness to deliberately move your life forward. You Deserve!


LES BROWN

AHEAD THE DEADLINES

Ahead of the Deadlines

You have the opportunity right now to avoid having to rush to get the job done at the last minute. Go ahead and do it now.

You can eliminate long stretches of resentful, hurried, ineffective efforts from your life. Simply get your work done sooner rather than later.

You can earn yourself time to think, to relax, to be free of deadlines. Just get out far ahead of those deadlines.

It’s better being in control of your time than to be striving to catch up with your obligations. Begin taking care of those obligations as soon as you have them and get them quickly out of the way.

This is your chance to make much more time in your life for doing what you want to do. The sooner you finish what you have to do, the more of that priceless, flexible time you’ll have.

Give your time first to what you have to do. You’ll be giving yourself a whole lot more quality moments to do whatever you love to do.

— Ralph Marston